Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.
Hi sweet friends! How is your week going so far? Were you able to jump right back into the swing of things post-Turkey day? I know for me it’s been non-stop things to do. On that note, let’s have a heart-to-heart.
By now, you know I am not a blogger who uses this platform to spew hate or simply complain about the sky being blue. Therefore, please allow me this post to let go all that’s been overwhelming me these days pertaining to the premiere of our little ShuGar. Before I do that, please know that I am over-the-moon excited to be a mom and this has nothing to do with me not wanting to be a parent, etc. No judgment, please. We all have our days.
I don’t know if my hormones are going all out of whack or what, but I’ve been so emotional, stressed, overwhelmed, and a mess these days. I can’t control it! I’ve had several crying outbursts because I have come to the realization of all that we have to do before April is here. It’s like looking down at an abyss of tasks. Yikes! It’s loads. On top of that, work is work, we are trying to make room in our little house for a third person, I am working on planning my sis’s bridal shower and also our baby shower. Oh, and then there is the blogging thing, which is my outlet and I love, but it does take me time to write. I have so many things I want to do on my little spot of the internet, but I wish I could have an extra day to dedicate to exploring these dreams.
To make things worse, Mr. ShuGar and I have had a few rough patches prepping for our new parenting life. Ssshhhh…it’s not all roses in a marriage! Add to that, transforming your lives as you know it to welcome a new little body. It’s an amazingly, blessed experience, but it also comes with its pressure and challenges that only parents can truly understand. It’s as if you feel guilty complaining because it’s such a gift, but, gosh, it can weigh you down.
This is what my body feels like with the baby bump and all the pressure to prep for baby.
It all came crashing this past weekend when we sat down and began to plan our next few months. We realized we literally have no free time to just relax because there is just so much stuff to prepare. We have signed up for a series of baby classes, which means our entire February and parts of January and March are are full. Also, this weekend we cleaned out all our closets to make room and decided to see if we could sell the items at a consignment store. No luck there since they are looking for what’s trending now (so then why would you give it away?). I can say we are working diligently on our to-do’s, but they just keep on growing.
The straw that broke the camels back was when our sweet, dearest friend came by and brought over tons of amazing baby supplies, clothes, etc. It is incredible how much she gave us! We are forever indebted to the generosity of our friend. I don’t know what we would do without her. However, as soon as she left, I saw all the stuff that has now taken over our living room and…..Ahhhhh!!!! I lost it! Tidal wave of emotions came crashing down on me.
What brought on this breaking point was actually seeing a physical reminder of baby items in our living room, as if they were taunting us about how much we really don’t know about baby. I can’t even tell you all the names of all the things in our living room now! We (actually Mr. ShuGar, more than me) have been trying to educate ourselves on everything baby, but it really feels never-ending. Just take a look at the books we have on our reading list.
And then there all these other things you have to research: pediatricians, your registry, your birthing philosophy, to circumcise or not, vaccines, etc. To add even more pressure, circumcision and vaccines are pretty contentious topics with endless amounts of info on the internet on both sides of each issue. Who’s right? Our parent friends advise us to decide what our parenting philosophy is. Say what? There is definitely a fear-mongering culture in baby world.
I know what some of you may be thinking. Just relax and let it go. We probably look like worry warts to you, and I think that this may be partially true. However, it’s not that easy when you know someone’s life is in your hands and you better do beyond your best to prepare. Prepping for baby can easily be a full time job.
Now what? I know we’ll be fine and everything will be ready by the time ShuGar boy makes his debut. It’s just I need a moment to freak out and get it out of my system. It’s a lot to take in.
Ok, I am done with my pregnancy woes. Again, excuse me if it’s TMI, but I figure I will let you all into my world. It’s nice to share so that we all don’t feel so alone in our experiences. Trust me when I say we are dripping with joy knowing we will welcome our ShuGar prince in the next few months. What makes all this madness worth it is knowing he will be ours to love and hold.
Do (Did) you have any pregnancy freak outs? What stresses (stressed) you out about becoming a parent? Any words of advice for this mommy-to-be?