Category Archives: Baby Love

Mother To All

Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Hi ShuGar Lovelies! How are you? I sure miss you although I love to hear from you on Instagram. Life as a working mom is busy and that’s why I haven’t popped in for a while. However, I have SO much content I want to share with you all; I feel like I have blog posts already written in my mind, like this one I am about to share.

Let me start by saying prior to Camden being born, I was not a baby person. Like not even a little bit; he was the first infant I had ever held.  I would actually get annoyed when little kids would be running around and being messy and I’d wonder why parents couldn’t control their children! Boy, have I learned my lesson on that one!

Fast forward to the present and I am an entirely different person now that I am a mommy; in fact, I feel like I have become a mommy to all and sometimes this new identity weighs heavily on my heart.

Allow me to explain…

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6 Types of Posts to Avoid in Facebook Mommy Groups

Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Mommy world is a funny place – you can find your squad of mommies and discover immense support on all sorts of parenting-related questions or you can find yourself caught up in a whirlwind of judgement and gossip-mongering like no other. I’ve experienced both – more the former than the later. Add Facebook to this mix and you’ve got a whole other set of behaviors and codes you should avoid if you want to make/keep any mommy friends. Of course, you can choose to ignore these suggestions (confession: I haven’t always taken my own advice), but if you want to be drama-free you might want to steer away from creating or getting involved in the following Facebook mommy group posts:

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Little Mrs. Perfect

Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Sweet ShuGar Loves,

Hi! I’ve missed you these past few months. I needed time away to gather my thoughts and process all that has been going on in my life since becoming a mommy. If you follow me on instagram (my fave social media platform), you most likely saw my post explaining where I’ve been. There is so much to unpack in that post and I will be doing so in subsequent blog posts. For now, I will share what has plagued me for almost two years: Postpartum depression.

It’s not the fairy tale side of motherhood by far, but it is the raw and authentic side that I have lived. I share to not say all mothers go through this – in fact, I would hope most don’t. Yet, it has been my truth and on my blog this is what I do – I share my heart. Allow me to open up about how postpartum depression (PPD) has affected me.

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Zzzzzzzzzz’s

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Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Hi All! Boy, oh boy, (pun intended) is sleep a big deal when you become a parent! The moment you become pregnant complete strangers congratulate you and then snicker as they say, “Make sure you get enough sleep now while you can.” It may register or may not register what these people are saying, but either way you will be entering the world of sleep deprivation soon enough.

I alluded to this in my post about what you should really expect when you are expecting a while ago. What I’d like to focus on is more about what your body goes through from lack of sleep and also the aftereffects on other areas of your life. I also want to discuss this whole concept of “sleep training” which will surely be something all new parents have to address.

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10 Things You Should Really Expect When You’re Expecting (Part 2)

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Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Hi Sweet Loves – I hope you are all having some summery fun! I listened to everyone’s advice and took a vacay to spend time with my little prince and the hubs. Best thing ever! I have felt more refreshed and calm. I highly recommend any new mom to do the same!

Now, let’s continue our talk on what you should really expect when you are expecting a new baby. To get all the juicy details for the first five things, click here. As always, if you prefer to be more in the dark when it comes to motherhood in the first year, please stop reading here.

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10 Things You Should Really Expect When You are Expecting (Part 1)

 

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Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Sweet New Mommies & Mommies-to-be:

This is my love post to you. A Top 10 list of what you should really expect when you are expecting. I have so much to say on this topic that this is Part 1 in a two-part series; for Part 2 click here.

Of course, we are all too familiar with that infamous book by now. Truth be told: That book was so overwhelming for me and stressed me out. I also think it focused too much on the “what if’s”, and not so much on the “probably’s” and definitely didn’t give enough attention to the real struggle: the first year of motherhood. Below is a cliff notes version of what to consider pre-baby when you actually have time to reflect and study these things (this list may take on a new meaning when you are sleep deprived). I compiled this list not only from my own experience, but anecdotal information from my mommy friends and a wonderful support group of mommies I am a part of. They are my tribe and I thank you all for being a constant in my life as a first-time mommy.

This list is not to diminish the research you should be doing on labor and delivery, your birth plan, or how to create a gallery wall for your baby’s nursery. All those things are definitely important; this list is to help guide you in the blur of the first year as you try to navigate motherhood. Keep this in your back pocket and read it when you are feeling lost at 3:00 a.m. when your baby won’t take to the bottle or won’t latch on.

You are not alone. Please remember that. Many mommies have come before you and have survived. You too can do it.

Disclaimer: If you prefer the “ignorance is bliss” approach, then stop reading here. This list is for those moms who prefer to know the truth, the whole truth, and be as informed as possible about the world they are about to enter.

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Reborn

Reborn

My Dearest ShuGar Loves,

I am back!!!!!! Well, sort of. Believe it or not, I have tried to write this post for over six months. Each and every time, life takes over and I just click “save draft” in the hopes that I will return one day. I thought it fitting that I would relaunch around the day I was born – really because I feel as though I have been reborn.

Before you think I am going to get all crazy existential and hippie-ish on you, do not despair. You may be wondering where I’ve been all this time. Guess what? I’ve been trying to figure that out myself. How is it that just giving birth to one little human can make it so hard to have time to myself to blog? As you know, I like to be honest with all you ShuGar Lovelies – I hope that is why you return time and time again to read my thoughts. So, here goes….the reality of motherhood.

I will not be sharing everything that has happened to me since my blog hiatus because it just wouldn’t be that exciting. The truth of motherhood is that it is filled with the sublime, the mundane, the exhaustion, the jubilee, and the despair all rolled into one. Being a mom is not for the faint of heart. We see all these nice photos on pinterest and instagram and they are all so pretty, but it is NOT motherhood.

Motherhood is staying up with your child all night when he has a fever; it is cleaning up his poo sometimes 5 times a day. At times, it is lying in bed with him all day and thinking life just could not get any better. It’s looking at your baby as he stands up for the first time and feeling so much happiness in your heart you feel as if it’s going to burst. It’s breastfeeding through pain, laughing at the silliest things, and carrying your 20-pound baby at all hours of the day. Blogging sometimes just can’t be fit into 24 hours of one day.

I may be breaking some parenting code here, but when you have a baby (this applies to both mommies and daddies, but I can only speak from the mommy perspective), your life is over. Your life, your identity, your pre-baby body is dead. Yes, I said it. But don’t take my word for it. One of my favorite quotes from my crush Bill Murray, playing Bob in Lost in Translation (love this film!!!) said it best.

The most terrifying day of your life is the day the first one is born…Your life, as you know it… is gone. Never to return. But they learn how to walk, and they learn how to talk… and you want to be with them. And they turn out to be the most delightful people you will ever meet in your life.

And there you have it. “Your life, as you know it, is gone.” No one ever told me this. Or maybe they did and I just brushed it off because, after all, how hard could it be to raise a baby? When you have a child, your former life dies a quick death. Now, please don’t think I am morbid. I do believe you eventually get some of it back, but it will never be the same. Why? Because up until that moment when he is born, you never, ever knew that type of love existed. It’s all encompassing and forever will be. Those of us who are parents are so lucky to know this love.

I share these truths not to scare anyone, but to state why I have not returned. I have been trying to figure out who this new person is. This mother inside of me I never knew could be. For 15 months, I have been trying to survive sleepless nights while, at the same time, attempting to be a loving wife, a dedicated full-time employee, and a normal human being. The only thing I believe I have accomplished is learning how to be Camden’s mommy. I think I finally have that down.

I cannot commit to blogging on a regular basis. It is too much pressure on me. I can tell you that my heart needed to return. I had to give this gift to myself. The writer in me could not die. She is reborn.

I hope you stop by from time to time to continue to follow me on my love journey. I am sorry if you feel that I talk about my baby too much. I apologize for all the future posts that center too much on my life as a mommy. You may ask yourself, “Where is the old Mrs. ShuGar?” Well, dear loves, she is gone.

This is the new me. I am reborn. I am a mother. I am a writer. And, above all else, I am a  lover of love.

Thank you for sharing your hearts with me.

Photo credit: Peter Shushtari

 

A Letter to My ShuGar Loves: Goodbye (for now)

Camden-and-MommyDear ShuGar Loves: Let’s have a heart to heart. As you know, I am a first time mom to our deliciously scrumptious son, Camden. It goes without saying that I am madly in love. However, I must confess that these almost first four months have not been easy on me. From the 22-hour labor, to my struggles with breastfeeding and postpartum, I feel like I have survived a war. I do want to state that for some women, their labors are easy and they transition into motherhood smoothly. For me, things are better all around, but I now find myself exhausted and feeling like there is not enough time in the day to accomplish everything I want to.

You see, I have returned to my full-time job while, at the same time,  sweet Camdie has regressed with his sleeping. In addition, he seems to dislike several formulas we have fed him and/or bottles. Needless to say, the phrase, “I am busy” appears to be an understatement.

The fact that I have returned to work has resulted in me neglecting my blog. Before, I used to blog in the wee hours of the morning or late night. I just can’t these days. With our beautiful boy waking up 3-4 times a night, I am a walking zombie during the day. Because of this, I feel that my content has suffered and I cannot be the blogger I know I can be. Instead of hiding this from you and pretending like I can do it all (such a misnomer), I say with all sincerity motherhood is hard. I am a better person as a mom, but I am also trying to figure out what that new “me” is. What I do know is that my boy is my number one priority. Because of that, I feel that I have to take a break from this lovely blog of mine to be his mommy.

This, of course, means that I must sleep whenever I have free time. It’s for my sanity and that of my family’s. This is bittersweet for me. I love blogging. It’s the one thing that I have these days that is truly all mine. Writing is in my core and I feel most connected to my soul whenever I devise a blog post. I have been blessed with having the honor of writing for you. Your comments and messages have all touched my heart. I just need you to know that.

For now, I must tell you I have to take a break from my little corner of the Internet. I know I risk you never coming back or forgetting about me, but that is a risk I must take. As I contemplated doing this, I realized I was born to write because so many future posts were swimming in my head. I have so much more I want to share. Some ideas I have are: What it means to be a working mom vs. a stay at home mom, summer nights at the Hollywood Bowl, Can mothers have it all?, Fall fashion wants, movie review of Boyhood, our 3-year wedding anniversary take-aways, L.A. museum visits, and the truth about post-partum depression.

And with that I tell my readers I’ll see you later. I hope to come back when Camdie is sleeping more. I will still post photos of my heart on instagram and facebook. When I do return, I would love to reconnect with you, but I understand if you can’t wait. Know that I thank you for allowing me to share my heart with yours.

P.S. This article made me cry.

Photo credit: Peter Shushtari

Ssshhh…Ten Secrets about The Fourth Trimester

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Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

I have wanted to write this post the minute I felt somewhat normal after my delivery of baby Camdie (well, almost the minute). As any first time mom would do, I read so many books about what happens in a pregnancy and how to prepare for baby, but really there is nothing I have seen about what parents, and specifically mamas, go through in the first three months after your baby is born. The term “The fourth trimester” is used by Dr. Harvey Karp to describe the first three months of a baby’s life as an extension of the womb; it’s during the fourth month and beyond (after the fourth trimester) where you see babies have more human-like characteristics.

I dedicate this post to all expectant mamas and future mamas out there. I hope this takes away the mystery of what happens after you birth your child.

So what can parents expect in the fourth trimester?

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ShuGar Baby Monthly Update: Month Three

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Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Hi friends! Things have been so busy these days. I went back to work last week and I am trying to find my newer “normal” from what has been already a “new” normal as a first time mommy.  I’d like to share more in a future post about my experience as a working mom. For the time being, allow me to gush over my three-month chubby boy.

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