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Hands Free Love

 ShuGar Fix Mondays is a weekly inspiration series because Mondays deserve an extra dose of pretty. For more ShuGar Fix Mondays, click here!

Lately, I’ve been trying to practice the art of letting go. It’s not easy for this self-professed perfectionist, but I am a work-in-progress. Images which inspire this sense of freedom that are dancing in my head are balloons (or as ShuGar Boy calls them “BaBoons”).

Below is some imagery that reflects on the beauty of embracing life and relinquishing control.

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And away we go!

P.S. Pic of ShuGar playing with his own balloon melts my heart!

Photo credit: First Balloon, Second Balloon, Third Balloon, Fourth Balloon, Fifth Balloon, Sixth Balloon

Search for the Lemonade

The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

It’s been a while since I last posted an All You Need is Love Project post – it feels good to be back! Thank you for all the love shared with me about yesterday’s Postpartum Depression post – I am always amazed at the support from the mommy world.

I wanted to follow up with a more practical post about how we all can pull ourselves out of our own funks because, let’s face it, life has its share of ups and downs so we need to discover what can pull us up. And, I do believe the strength should start within us – It allows for less disappoint if we constantly depend on others for our happiness.

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Little Mrs. Perfect

Mommy’s Corner is a weekly series exploring our journey in becoming parents, our love for our ShuGar baby, and general topics related to mommyhood.

Sweet ShuGar Loves,

Hi! I’ve missed you these past few months. I needed time away to gather my thoughts and process all that has been going on in my life since becoming a mommy. If you follow me on instagram (my fave social media platform), you most likely saw my post explaining where I’ve been. There is so much to unpack in that post and I will be doing so in subsequent blog posts. For now, I will share what has plagued me for almost two years: Postpartum depression.

It’s not the fairy tale side of motherhood by far, but it is the raw and authentic side that I have lived. I share to not say all mothers go through this – in fact, I would hope most don’t. Yet, it has been my truth and on my blog this is what I do – I share my heart. Allow me to open up about how postpartum depression (PPD) has affected me.

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Smell the Roses

Smell the Roses

The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

Thank you all for the kind welcome back love! I really do have the absolute best followers ever!

Do you remember the All You Need is Love Project? It was my attempt to add more love into this world through a love revolution. I can’t keep up the same pace with the project, but I still want to keep it alive in an informal way. On Thursdays, whether I post or not, share thoughts, photos, videos from your heart. Use #allyouneedisloveproject so we can all stay connected. That’s it! Easy peasy! When I have more time, I will return to more structured posts, but for now love is all we need.

Let’s get to it! Ever since I was reborn as a mom, I’ve seen life so differently. In many ways, it’s been a whirlwind and in other ways I am seeing life through a toddler’s eyes. Let me tell you: Life is magnificent. You just have to stop and smell the roses. Want proof?

  • Have you seen the sunsets we’ve been having lately? They’re out of this world! Take the time and study the rich colors. It will blow your mind.
  • I have always eaten my cereal with warm milk. I know that is odd for most. Lately, I’ve discovered the joy of cold cereal at the end of a long day. #puredelight
  • There is absolutely nothing cuter than seeing your baby master his language syllable by syllable. It’s as if I see his world opening right before his eyes. He says “tra” for trash and “guwa” for agua (water). I die!
  • Mr. ShuGar told me the other day that I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I stopped for a bit to think about that statement. To be considered someone’s best is pretty rad, but coming from him, it’s about the raddest thing I could have ever imagined. If you knew him, you’d know he just doesn’t throw those statements around; there is profound truth in his words.
  • Because of ShuGar Boy’s sleeping habits, I’ve had time to read more while he naps. When was the last time you read a good book? I’m not talking about just any old tale, but one that transports you into a universe filled with all your imagination running free. It’s incredible to allow yourself to be immersed in a good read. In this age of instant gratification, a book is a nice way to slow things down and cherish every word.

What are some things you’ve noticed when you stop and smell the flowers?

Happy 4th of July to all my American ShuGar Lovelies! Hope you enjoy celebrating our country’s birthday.

Reborn

Reborn

My Dearest ShuGar Loves,

I am back!!!!!! Well, sort of. Believe it or not, I have tried to write this post for over six months. Each and every time, life takes over and I just click “save draft” in the hopes that I will return one day. I thought it fitting that I would relaunch around the day I was born – really because I feel as though I have been reborn.

Before you think I am going to get all crazy existential and hippie-ish on you, do not despair. You may be wondering where I’ve been all this time. Guess what? I’ve been trying to figure that out myself. How is it that just giving birth to one little human can make it so hard to have time to myself to blog? As you know, I like to be honest with all you ShuGar Lovelies – I hope that is why you return time and time again to read my thoughts. So, here goes….the reality of motherhood.

I will not be sharing everything that has happened to me since my blog hiatus because it just wouldn’t be that exciting. The truth of motherhood is that it is filled with the sublime, the mundane, the exhaustion, the jubilee, and the despair all rolled into one. Being a mom is not for the faint of heart. We see all these nice photos on pinterest and instagram and they are all so pretty, but it is NOT motherhood.

Motherhood is staying up with your child all night when he has a fever; it is cleaning up his poo sometimes 5 times a day. At times, it is lying in bed with him all day and thinking life just could not get any better. It’s looking at your baby as he stands up for the first time and feeling so much happiness in your heart you feel as if it’s going to burst. It’s breastfeeding through pain, laughing at the silliest things, and carrying your 20-pound baby at all hours of the day. Blogging sometimes just can’t be fit into 24 hours of one day.

I may be breaking some parenting code here, but when you have a baby (this applies to both mommies and daddies, but I can only speak from the mommy perspective), your life is over. Your life, your identity, your pre-baby body is dead. Yes, I said it. But don’t take my word for it. One of my favorite quotes from my crush Bill Murray, playing Bob in Lost in Translation (love this film!!!) said it best.

The most terrifying day of your life is the day the first one is born…Your life, as you know it… is gone. Never to return. But they learn how to walk, and they learn how to talk… and you want to be with them. And they turn out to be the most delightful people you will ever meet in your life.

And there you have it. “Your life, as you know it, is gone.” No one ever told me this. Or maybe they did and I just brushed it off because, after all, how hard could it be to raise a baby? When you have a child, your former life dies a quick death. Now, please don’t think I am morbid. I do believe you eventually get some of it back, but it will never be the same. Why? Because up until that moment when he is born, you never, ever knew that type of love existed. It’s all encompassing and forever will be. Those of us who are parents are so lucky to know this love.

I share these truths not to scare anyone, but to state why I have not returned. I have been trying to figure out who this new person is. This mother inside of me I never knew could be. For 15 months, I have been trying to survive sleepless nights while, at the same time, attempting to be a loving wife, a dedicated full-time employee, and a normal human being. The only thing I believe I have accomplished is learning how to be Camden’s mommy. I think I finally have that down.

I cannot commit to blogging on a regular basis. It is too much pressure on me. I can tell you that my heart needed to return. I had to give this gift to myself. The writer in me could not die. She is reborn.

I hope you stop by from time to time to continue to follow me on my love journey. I am sorry if you feel that I talk about my baby too much. I apologize for all the future posts that center too much on my life as a mommy. You may ask yourself, “Where is the old Mrs. ShuGar?” Well, dear loves, she is gone.

This is the new me. I am reborn. I am a mother. I am a writer. And, above all else, I am a  lover of love.

Thank you for sharing your hearts with me.

Photo credit: Peter Shushtari

 

Three Ingredients for a Successful Relationship

The ShuGars-Wedding

The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

Hey everyone! How have you been? The ShuGars + 1 have been so busy lately. Our dear Camdie has not been sleeping and eating much lately so we’ve been a bit stressed and exhausted. Hopefully things improve soon. I have so much to share about this experience, but I have just been so tired that blogging has taken a back seat these days. I just couldn’t miss this day, though. It’s my favorite blogging day!

What ingredients constitute a successful relationship? I first thought of this topic since currently our marriage is going through some rough patches since we are all consumed by our newest addition. I know this is just a phase in the transition of welcoming our baby, but it still doesn’t make it easy. Hopefully once we are less sleep deprived, we can find our new normal.

Relationships, no matter what stage of life you are in, must be nurtured. My three relationship ingredients are…

But, wait! I want more reading!

On Love

john and yoko

 The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

TODAY’S LOVE TOPIC:

Our monthly tradition of having a love free-for-all topic is next! Post anything your heart desires about love next week. The only requisite is that you share your love with the rest of us.

Hello all! It’s my favorite time of the week to talk about love. It ain’t no secret that I am a Beatles lover. I mean after all we had a Beatles wedding and used the Beatles to announce our little Camdie was coming into our lives. They’ve even inspired this entire love movement!

You may ask why I am so crazy about the Beatles. Well, the answer is simple: Love.

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All Smiles

Gum-Drops

 The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

TODAY’S LOVE TOPIC:

Using descriptive language tell us what makes you smile. Describe the images that come to your head which put a grin on your face.

Hello, sweet friends! I hope you are all doing great. Have you been enjoying the World Cup? I sure have and it looks like it will be Germany and Argentina for the final match. Exciting! I lived in Argentina so you know who I am routing for.

Today’s love discussion is fun and sweet. What makes us smile? It’s such a personal answer and I thought this would be fun to share these days as I have been enjoying Camdie’s smiles lately. I am still waiting for his first giggle and I just can’t wait! Seeing him smile when we talk to him brightens up our entire day. His beautiful toothless grin got me thinking about what makes me smile.

Want to know?

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Bananas

bananas

 The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

TODAY’S LOVE TOPIC:

What do you love to do to help yourself relax after a long day?

Hi sweet readers! Hope you are enjoying your summer so far. L.A. has been quite humid, which is not typical weather in these parts. I’m hoping the ocean breeze will come through.

A big thanks to Julie from Home is Where the Heart Is for taking over last week’s Love Project. She’s the best! Julie has posted today’s discussion and I kind of love this one. I find it fun reading what everyone likes to do to unwind. As for me, it’s all about bananas.

But, wait! I want more reading!

The Evolution of Friendship

people-change

 The All You Need is Love Project is a movement to inspire more love on this planet. The more we come together, the more love we can share. Join the revolution here!

TODAY’S LOVE TOPIC:

Our monthly tradition of having a love free-for-all topic is next! Post anything your heart desires about love next week. The only requisite is that you share your love with the rest of us.

I forgot who told me this, but they mentioned that in life the only constant is change. I couldn’t agree more. I’ve never been adverse to change, but at times it can take time to adjust. With the birth of my newborn, I have begun to notice that my need for certain friendships has changed. I never would have thought this would happen, but it has.

But wait! I want more reading!