Dia de Los Muertos: Dedication to Tia Petra

I love the Mexican celebrations for El Dia de los Muertos (The Day of the Dead).  It’s such a rich tradition in Mexico celebrated in the end of October/beginning of November. There are other cultures with similar customs, but I am most familiar with Mexico’s Day of the Dead. It is a day in which we celebrate our loved ones who have passed away by creating altars to commemorate their lives.  It is not a day of mourning. On the contrary, it is a joyous and colorful celebration where we honor those who have left this Earth, but remain in our hearts.

L.A. is such a rad place to celebrate El Dia de los Muertos – there are festivities all around the city. My favorite thing to do is visit the Hollywood Forever Cemetery to walk through the ocean of altars. They are absolutely stunning and beyond vibrant!

Thanks to my sweet blog friend, Elba, from her Live Colorful blog, I have decided to create my own version of an altar.  I don’t have the time to build something marvelous, but I will recreate the beauty in my words. Elba made this beautiful frame we could use in our altars, so I’ve decided to incorporate it into my altar. Elba is so talented! To read more about what altars contain, visit her blog here.

For this Dia de los Muertos, I dedicate my altar to my favorite aunt who has long left this Earth, tia (aunt) Petra.  My tia passed away decades ago, but I still feel her presence in my life. However, in recent years, life has been busy and I am ashamed to admit, I haven’t thought of her. I feel so bad about that. It wasn’t until I found out I was pregnant that she popped back into my mind.

My tia Petra lived in Mexico City, but she would spend entire Christmas and/or summer vacations in our house taking care of my sister and I while both my parents worked.  During her long stays, we developed a very close relationship.  She was a devout Catholic and taught me how to love God and my family.  She was a very sweet, gentle woman and I just loved being in her presence. Do you know when you just bond with someone and you can’t really explain why? That was my tia Petra and I. I would wait with eager excitement for her return and would cry every time she left.

I was devastated when she passed away. It broke my heart.  Now that the years have gone by, I can honestly say my tia Petra has immensely impacted my life. She was one of a few people who taught me the meaning of love at a young age. It is because of her that I know what love looks and feels like. She embodied love. I now marvel about my relationship with her because she was not my mother or grandmother, but my great aunt. It shows the power that family can have in your upbringing.

This Dia de los Muertos, I am reminded of tia Petra’s beauty inside and out. I like to think that she still takes care of me and sends me hugs from heaven.  I hope and pray that my little ShuGar will have his own tia Petra experience to demonstrate the power of love. It stays with you forever.

Happy Halloween, spooky friends! Do you have any Hallo-plans? I’m going to have a reveal of our couple’s costume on Instagram after the sun sets!

Photo credit: Peter Shushtari

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  • Claire Smith

    Aww this is a lovely post. I’m sure she would be proud! <3

    • Thank, sweet Claire! I appreciate the support. Hugs!

  • Carmen this is awesome!! I’m so happy you used the frame. Last year I felt that my grandpa’s picture looked sad, I’m enjoying the colorful frames this year, they are happy. Your post is lovely, losing people we love is so hard, but I also believe that they are in a better place and from there they send us lots of hugs. Happy Halloween! I cant wait to see your costume.
    Xo, Elba

    • Big thanks for you for inspiring it. You are such a talented artist that I knew when I saw it I wanted to use it. Your altar was gorgeous! It’s hard to lose someone, but I know they still live on in our hearts. Hope you had a fun Halloween!

  • What a lovely story about your aunt. I’m sure she would
    be proud of you c: And you should be proud of yourself
    as well! Happy Halloween! Xx

    • Thanks so very much! It was nice to feel a connection to her again and remember how much I still love her. Thanks for visiting!

  • that is such a beautiful story of your aunt. it’s really sweet to see that you remember her in such a wonderful way. xx

    • Big thanks, sweet Jane! I couldn’t believe how much I remember. It actually made me tear up quite a bit. The memories just took me back. It felt wonderful to honor her.

  • PS

    Lovely, lovely post. I’m sure your tia is so proud of you!

    • Thanks, Nene! I hope she is because I love her!

  • Imogen Massey

    It sounds like your tia was a very special woman, what a lovely story and a wonderful way of remembering her. I wasn’t feeling too great yesterday but I do like to honour my ancestors on Samhain/Halloween and spend some time thinking about my grandparents on my father’s side. My grandpa was so in to spooky stories and always told me stories about ghosts he and my grandma had seen, so I think he’d appreciate ancestor remembrance on Halloween! Lots of love xx

    • I hope you are feeling better, Imogen. Maybe thinking about all the love around you will help, like that of your ancestors. Your grandpa sounds fun! I am obsessed with ghost stories, especially when they come from our grandparents! Hugs to you!

  • KPsays

    We have a similar “holiday” in Japan called “Obon”. You celebrate your deceased ancestors. It is a fun, festive “carnival” celebration. Of course, it is somber when you honor your loved ones. I love learning about other cultures special days.

    • How awesome is that! It’s so amazing to discover how similar cultures actually are. I had never heard of this Japanese holiday. So special. Thanks for visiting!