A Cup of ShuGar: It’s OK

I’ve been dreaming of writing this blog post for quite some time.  It’s a present to my loyal, lovely ShuGar readers. I know life can be amazingly challenging some times.  Do not despair. Never give up.  Strive for greatness, but know it’s ok to just be who you are.  Try to stop thinking of what could have been, what should be or what may be.  Just Be.

So What If You’re not a Size 0

You really want to have no meat on your bones? The older I get, the more I embrace the curves my parents gave me.  I like having a booty and some boobies.  You should too.  It’s ok to love your body the way it is.  Try to stop obsessing over that damn scale. Plus, men generally want their women to have some cushion, if you know what I mean.

It’s OK If You Still Feel Lost

Ok, you are many years out of college and still don’t know who you want to be.  I’m 35 and I am still trying to figure that out. Deciding on your profession and what job you want to do for the rest of your living, breathing hours is a hard decision to make.  We are not the generation of our parents where they worked in the same company for 40+ years.  Try different things.  Use the feeling of being “lost” to explore.

It’s OK If You Haven’t Found “The ONE” Yet

Alright, so you haven’t found that special boy or girl who you want to spend the rest of your life with.  It’s ok.  As my girl Doris Day said, “Whatever will be, will be.”  Speaking as a woman, boys are weird. I know they think the same about us, but think back to those playground days.  Remember how a boy showed he liked you.  Things don’t change much when you get older.  When you find the one, it will just happen when you least expect it and you will have no doubt.  Just be patient.

It’s OK To Stay In Bed

Slow down.  Life is so busy. Take some time to stay in bed and just be in the moment.  Take a day to sleep in.  Stop thinking of where you need to be, what you need to email, who you need to call etc.  Get under those covers and lull yourself back to sleep. You earned it.

It’s OK To Not Be OK

Maybe you’re not in the place of your life where you want to be.  Or maybe you are suffering right now. It’s ok.  Just live through this moment and embrace the sadness.  It will pass.  Don’t worry about having to be someone you are not.  Don’t despair that you don’t feel the greatest.  You will eventually live through it and find the sun.

I hope I was able to give you some inspiration.  Thank you for reading and being a part of my blog life!

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  • So glad you talked about the scale today! I’ve been struggling with my weight here recently + some minor health problems and it’s a great reminder that we shouldn’t obsess over how we look!

    • Girl – I feel you! I too have struggled for years and have yo-yo’d. It makes it especially challenging when you have health issues. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Know that you are more than fine the way you are. Kick that scale to the side! Thanks for stopping by =)


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    • You are welcome! The BeHappyLinkUp gals are fab! I checked out your blog. I love all the DIY goodness. You’re so talented. Happy to be wordpress friends =)

  • LOVE THIS POST. So many good things. Especially the last one for me. Thanks <3 Also that bed photo is amazing. I couldn't find the credit link..

    Have a great day! Thanks for the inspiration xx

    • Thanks so much, Helena! That means so much from a talented blogger like you! I’ve had my down moments and I always feel like I have to rush to be happy. Sometimes it’s ok to wallow a bit. Sorry about the link. I think I fixed it now =) Thanks for stopping by =)

  • YES to all of that! I loved your blunt honesty! I’ve battled my weight for years, and while I’m on a slow but steady weightloss track I’m enjoying each ounce and pound that I do lose vs. just wanting to be through the process already.

    • Hi Christie – Yup, I can relate to the weight battle. It’s such a big thing for us girls. I am happy you are trying to enjoyi the little victories to get you to your big goal. It’s definitely challenging since I’m sure you want to be at your goal weight, but sometimes it’s good to take things slow and appreciate the process. Best of luck and thanks for visiting!

  • Great post Carmen! Everything you’re saying is true – about the scale, about searching, about all of it!

    • Thank, Alyssa! All those things I feel (have felt) at some point in my life. It’s good to know we are not alone and that it’s ok to feel what we feel. Glad you visited!

  • Thanks so much for this, today! I’m sure so many of us needed these reminders to just be OK with ourselves and where we are in life.

    • Thanks, Alyssa! I think we all need these reminders. We are all human and it’s ok to be just that and not be superhuman. Happy you visited!

  • Oh my goodness, what wise words! I need to share this with all my friends. Who wouldn’t benefit from hearing these reassurances? I particularly like the last two- staying in bed is something I always feel guilty for, or associate with being depressed. But sometimes it’s nice to just get some extra rest! And it’s okay to not be okay….that’s a big one. That one deserves a meditation all its own.
    Thank you 🙂

    • Thank you, Christy, for sharing! You are the sweetest and that really touched me! We all need to hear these reassurances and stop beating ourselves up. Isn’t it crazy how we feel guilty about sleeping in? We sure deserve it, don’t we? Yup, it’s ok to be blah sometimes. Life is not all roses, but it’s getting through the non-rosy periods that makes us who we are. Thanks for visiting!

  • Awww what a perfect post, I’m so glad I found you, you made my day!! 🙂 Michelle

    • Yay! So happy to meet you, Michelle! I love the content of your blog. I’ll be following along. Glad to have made your day. Thanks for stopping by! =)

  • I’ve been taking a class this week called “Contemplative Teacher” and these are all issues that came up! We have to have compassion for ourselves too! Beautiful, inspiring writing. Thanks 🙂

    • You’re so wonderful, Aly! Your class sounds so cool! We can be so cruel to ourselves. It’ amazes me. We have to remember kindness. On that note, thank you for showing kindness to me! I respect and admire your writing so this means a lot =)